I believe ...
- Love is love.
- Black lives matter.
- Women's rights are human rights.
- No humans are illegal.
- Stories have the power to change lives.
I get it. I know what it feels like to have a story burning inside you that you can’t quite pin down. In my early fifties, I tried to wrestle my first book to the ground—at writers’ conferences and writing groups, on Post-it notes covering my living room walls and index cards scattered on my bedroom floor. I had so many different voices telling me to do so many different things that I couldn’t tune into my own voice. I was frustrated, overwhelmed, confused, and embarrassed. Was I ever going to get this book done?
A book coach changed my life. When I couldn’t stand one more friend asking me, “When’s your book going to be published?” I decided to work with a book coach. With her help, I clarified my main point, then wrote forward with confidence as I submitted pages every week. But one day my fingers took a detour and traveled to a deeply vulnerable story I wasn’t sure I could stomach sharing. But because of the trust between my book coach and me, I did share that story with her, which changed the trajectory of my life.
Just the facts, ma'am:
Scored my first byline in 1978 in my local newspaper with an article about my senior-year study-abroad experience in England.
What can I say? I've been playing with words as long as I can remember.
Landed my first book coaching gig in 2013, corralling 9 (!) cowriters creating a book together.
What can I say? I love a challenge.
Earned a certificate in spiritual formation from Columbia Theological Seminary, in addition to degrees from Wellesley College and Harvard Law School.
What can I say? I like school.
Up-leveled my book coaching expertise through Author Accelerator, the nation’s leading book-coach training program, and became certified as a Dare to Lead™trained professional (Brené Brown's leadership curriculum).
What can I say? I love to learn.
Serve as an adviser and founding board member of The Lancaster LGBTQ+ Coalition, a nonprofit organization committed to building communities where all can live courageous, full, and authentic lives.
What can I say? Fighting for justice and helping others be their true selves has always been part of my story.
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A New Chapter
I moved to Lancaster PA in June 2017 and three days later met Wendy, who is now my wife.
Our wedding in June 2021 turned into a pop-up Pride parade as a New Orleans-style brass band led us through the streets of Lancaster City.
When I wondered if I really had the fortitude to start over in my mid-50s, a wise friend said: "Some days will be hard and some will be easy. Hard, easy, hard, easy. That's what life is."
She was right. Making a big leap is hard. Damn hard. And the ease I feel in my own skin today—personally and professionally? I hope I never take that for granted.
Some things I love:
- The beach (Montauk, New York and Rehoboth Beach, Delaware are faves)
- Sun-kissed rooms
- Working in my pjs
- My co-working community
- Being a dog mom (Lucy is the best!)
- Watching my sons make their way in the world (if only they would call a little more often: is that too much to ask?)
- Sleeping past seven (which rarely happens anymore)
- Cuddling on the couch with my wife, watching just one more episode of Schitt's Creek
- Getting lost in a good book (check out some current favorites on my blog)