Graveyard of Safe Choices
About the memoir

 When a single editorial comment opens an empty-nester’s eyes to the truth about her feelings for her best friend, Suzette must choose between maintaining her thirty-year “perfect” marriage and life of heterosexual privilege or leaning into the unspeakable feelings rising within her and throwing a bomb into her family’s ecosystem. Will she put aside decades of denial, a lifetime of playing it safe, and the critical voices inside and outside her all for a chance to feel fully alive?

Graveyard of Safe Choices is a story that speaks to women at midlife and LGBTQ+ folx who are hiding in metaphorical closets, longing to live out loud but afraid of the cost. Weaving the past and present through a fractured, nonlinear story structure, this memoir is about gender roles and sexuality, faith and spirituality, identity and motherhood, head knowledge and body wisdom, but ultimately it is about reclamation of self, at any age.


GRAVEYARD OF SAFE CHOICES will be published in Fall 2023 by the University of Wisconsin Press!

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About the anthology

I'm thrilled to announce that my essay "Questions I Wish I Could Answer," has been accepted for inclusion in Passed On: Daughters Write About Father Loss, Lack, and Legacy, an anthology edited by anthropologist, author, and book coaching colleague, Amy Goldmacher. My essay gave me the opportunity to revisit some pieces I wrote about my late father shortly after his death in 2011, now with the benefit of more perspective and distance. 

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