Picture this:
May 2024, a lovely home overlooking a field on the outskirts of Lancaster, PA.
A book club of seven women discussing The Only Way Through Is Out, with me, the author, in attendance.
I doubt I imagined this scenario when I was slogging through the early drafts of my memoir, but what I can tell you is that it is sweet—and fun—on this side of the journey!
“I don’t usually read memoirs,” one of the women said a bit sheepishly during our conversation. “But I liked yours.” I asked her why she wasn’t a memoir fan.
I smiled. “I’m curious. What don’t you like about memoirs?”
She said that she was a retired high school English teacher with a strong preference for fiction, then hesitated.
“I typically find memoirs to be self-indulgent,” she said quietly.
And I smiled more broadly because I’ve heard that before.
I’ve even written a blog post about it.
Self-indulgent.
Narcissistic.
Navel-gazing.
Disparaging words that prey on the deep fears of memoir writers, and in some cases keep people from writing their stories at all.
Here’s the truth about memoirs:
Memoirs CAN be self-indulgent, narcissistic, and exercises in navel-gazing.
And unfortunately some of the memoirs I’ve read recently DO fall into those traps.
Nope, I’m not going to name names.
But here’s the good news:
By following ONE simple principle, you CAN write a memoir that is NOT self-indulgent or narcissistic.
That means knowing:
Instead, you’ll be on your way to writing a meaningful memoir, one that readers will connect with.
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